Comments for When Love Breaks Down

Comment on Crushing the crush by Dañell

Dañell — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 03:48:58 +0000

Oh! I forgot about the hate haikus!
Good times.

Comment on Know your rights! by Tamcatt

Tamcatt — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 17:01:19 +0000

Ah, the memories of bein’ single. . .hummm, I may have to return there someday. soon.

Comment on Apology accepted. by Angie

Angie — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 16:59:34 +0000

You must know by now, you were both better off. But boy, do I relate. My daughter went through hell, but it would have been worse with him there. He was occasionally very physically abusive and was missing a soul, seriously. I couldn’t tell her that then. She was half him.

Most of the time, when she did later see him, he left her with his mother to help take care of the boy child he had with a stripper. He fought for custody of him. But with her, it was just abandonment and running from what was probably the lowest child support amount in history. The poem she wrote about it is heartbreaking and brilliant for a 12 year old. I found and kept it.

She hasn’t even seen her father since she was 12. She is 28 now with her own girl (10) and insists on having her own daughters father live with them (who can be a problem) due inpart because she knows what she missed. Somehow it works. The Christians tell her she is going to hell because they “live in sin”. They live in love- for their daughter, and eachother.

She is 28 now. She would like to know what happened, and how her half brother is doing. But she is no longer interested in resolving anything with her father. She knows now he is sick. He is missing the human element called the capacity to love. We still both carry his last name, (so we matched), and with neither of us ever getting married we may always. And that’s fine.

It’s always been just us, with help from family. Through it all, through all the dates, and occaional longer term relationships I had it was just us. I regret that but it was the best I could do. Even my second supposedly perfect husband dumped us. So never again for me. It’s been some 24 years or more since I was married. And I’m afraid she may stay single forever. Maybe not so bad. She has his great family, and no longer feels like an only child. His siblings are hers, and her best friends.

Comment on Scorchy! The alter-ego I’m too chicken to adopt by Michelle

Michelle — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 04:13:56 +0000

I think I shall now crown you “Scorchy.”

Comment on And now for something completely different by Tamcatt

Tamcatt — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 15:13:23 +0000

I am amazed at the way you met your husband.
it is a fairy tale, no strike that!! a real life tale and it is a great one! thanks for sharing!!!

Comment on Crushing the crush by Tamcatt

Tamcatt — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 15:09:42 +0000

I am so grateful that you put this out here, Woman!
You put into words things I couldn’t and reading this post cleared up a few things for me from past relationships!
Whew! it’s good/weird feeling clarity and release after stinking thinking about old crappy relationships!
(I always thought I was alone out here – )

Comment on Dating with children by The Champ

The Champ — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 16:48:53 +0000

I still get zits and party in cow fields.

God help me.

Comment on Lonesome for naivete by Tamcatt

Tamcatt — Sat, 19 Sep 2009 19:21:26 +0000

This one smacked me upside the head!
Must learn to trust myself!!
First, have to learn to make good decisions not based on feelings. . . this is going to take a while.
Great reading!!! thanks for sharing!

Comment on Love means never having to say cervical biopsy by Michelle

Michelle — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 23:33:41 +0000

The King of Sluts.

Comment on The end of the beginning by Michelle

Michelle — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 23:18:59 +0000

Ha ha ha! I’m reading these posts and they’re bringing back some memories…ohhh the memories!
I missed the new gf bawling in the bathroom. Where the hell was I?
Nothing is more powerful than the pen – or typewriter.